1) face yourself and embrace your hair as it grows out of your head. No braids, no weave, no cover ups. Wash you hair, put some oil/moisturizer in it, let it dry and then sit in ... See Morethe mirror. Play with your hair, look at your scalp, and acknowledge the power and beauty staring back at you. I've been natural my whole life, but I used to press&blowdry my hair. I stopped cold turkey and wore an afro for 3 months straight. I did this first step and cried like a baby for hours. You are programmed not to like your hair because it's thick, wavy, and/or curly. You are programmed to think that bouncy curls or super straight hair is the only way. You are programmed not to like yourself the way god created you. This step will help with unprogramming you.
2) Get to know the products and the INGREDIENTS you use in your hair. Just because it says "natural", "for curly or wavy hair", "moisturizing", etc does mean you should use it in your hair. Bad: Mineral oil, Sodium lauryl sulfate. Good: WATER, OLIVE OIL, Shea Butter.
3) develop Confidence, patience, and the courage to experiment
http://www.tightlycurly.com/
http://www.whatissuitetabu.com/
http://www.newlynatural.com/
http://www.nappturality.com/
http://www.youtube.com/ : prettydimples01 and blackonyx
It's important to read and watch those tutorials. They help you figure yourself out and inspire you to experiment. Wait and see how confident you will feel and how many women stop and compliment you, once you've found a great routine. So many people make the decision and then step in half heartedly, then wonder why they are unhappy with their hair.
